DATING TIPS
NEVER Tolerate These Things When Dating Filipinas
Sometimes, it’s difficult to tell what’s acceptable for you and what isn’t because it may not apply to others as much as it does to you. At the same time, what works for you may not be the same for them.
It’s common knowledge that love and relationships are complex and that it takes effort to sustain them. When you’re dating Filipinas, you’ll learn that your differences can either bind you closer or set you apart.
But one thing you must know is that loving someone shouldn’t be a reason for you to tolerate unacceptable things. In the end, you’ll lose more than your partner does.
In truth, this isn’t what love should be.
Here are some common relationship deal breakers that’ll make you think twice if the relationship is worth staying in:
Groundless Cheating Accusations
Thinking that your partner is cheating behind your back is a reflection of your overt distrust and deep-seated insecurities.
It’s also sickening when you hear them ask endless questions about where you’ve been and who you were with just because your phone battery died. It may sound cliché, but it can always happen.
However, it’s wrong to be accused of a mistake you didn’t do in the first place. It’s also unfair for your partner to take your love so lightly that a few unanswered calls mean that you’re cheating.
It’s normal to think of the worst in a partner. But if it’s something done numerous times, it might be better to think once again whether you should stay.
Infidelity
Usually, a partner who cheats on you doesn’t deserve another chance.
You can forgive them, but that doesn’t always mean forgetting about what they did and getting back together.
If you’ve been cheated on, you can always forgive to have inner peace. Leave and move forward. Don’t dwell on the past and comfort yourself into thinking that they’ll change after what happened because you’ll never know.
Wardrobe Restrictions
You and your partner represent each other in more ways than you know. True enough, your clothing choices are a factor you both have to consider. However, unnecessary wardrobe restrictions dictate who and how you want yourself to be seen by others.
If your partner constantly does this, it will make you appear dependent and incapable of making such choices on your own.
If your relationship pushes you to change your style and not on your own free will, it may not be what you think it is.
Obsessing
One way to establish trust in a relationship is to let each other know your whereabouts from time to time. But when it comes to the point where they insist on knowing where you are and what you’re doing 24/7, it might be unhealthy.
Giving them the authority to know where you are, who you’re with, and what keeps you occupied every single time can be suffocating in the long run. Even if you’re in a relationship, you’re still entitled to your own level of privacy, especially time with yourself.
It’s alright to let them know, but letting them invade your personal space isn’t.
Control in Finances
You’re not supposed to be with someone who takes control of all your finances. As a couple, there’s a fine line between combining your finances and letting your partner take control over it.
If they decide how much you should spend in a day and are the one to give out your daily budget, you look much more like a kid receiving his allowance rather than a couple trying to save money together.
Speak out when you have to. Nothing is romantic in a relationship wherein you have to follow what’s being told to you all the time.
Constant Need to Adjust
Did you give up living in a good neighborhood because it didn’t satisfy them enough?
Do they find it hard to change their work schedule even when you’ve asked them to for so long?
You both have to pull your end of the rope to make the relationship work. Consequently, you’re both required to give way to each other when the situation calls for it.
You’re not the only one who’s supposed to yield to wishes. It has to be both of you.
It’s natural to want different things at the same time, but it’s just impossible to accommodate what you want.
To avoid being in such a situation, always learn to give way to each other equally. You’re not their remote control car, and you have to keep that in mind.
Physical Force
It goes without saying, but even if they’re women, a partner should never hurt you physically in any way.
At the same time, you mustn’t lay a finger on them, either. No matter how heated your argument may be, physical force and violence will not solve your problem at all.
Don’t do things that you’ll regret later on. Also, staying with someone who physically hurt you over and over again is something you’d certainly regret in the course of time.
Unfriendliness
Your friends are the best reflection of who you are.
When you love someone, you’re keen on making friends with their friends as well. It’s a way for you to acknowledge the people they like to spend time with and your relationship altogether.
However, when they don’t do the same to you, that’s a sign of indifference. It only means that they aren’t interested in knowing the people in your life. Most importantly, they don’t even care enough about you.
In some cases, introversion can be a reason for this. Being with someone who has poor social skills may make them want to stay away from your friends out of fear of embarrassing you or themselves.
As such, it’s always best to know who you’re dating. But if it’s the former, perhaps it’s time to see your relationship differently.
Making Yourself Stronger
Relationship issues happen because of differences. These differences test what you and your partner are both willing to do just to stay together.
But when things become too painful, it’s alright not to push yourself too hard. Doing so will only hurt you more.
Tolerating things that are in your control doesn’t make you better as a person. After all, it’s self-destructive.
Filipinas have earned a good image as partners for foreign men not just because of their beauty, but because their hospitality and faithfulness make marrying them an excellent choice for life.
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