Dating Younger Women in Asia the Right Way

Chantana Sun
5 min readNov 23, 2023

Age is a number. That is true enough, but age is also indicative of life experience, which is part of what attracts a younger woman to an older man. Age is also indicative of youth and is part of the reason why an older man might prefer dating younger women.

There are more than a few men around the world that may want to experience the benefits of dating a younger woman. But not every single man in the world is equipped to go about dating a younger woman.

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A lot of guys who are somewhat inexperienced with dating can find themselves at a complete loss for the best way to spend time with an Asian woman (who is significantly younger than they are). In some cases, the men will have children or even grandchildren who are younger than their desired partner.

That’s not to say that there’s nothing but hopelessness for guys who want to date women who are a lot younger than them. Fortunately, there are ways they can achieve their goal. It’s just that they may have to work a little harder to find common ground with someone who may be from a much newer generation. With that said, following these steps is a good way to start:

1. Join a Platform

First thing’s first, if you want to date Asian women who are a lot younger than you are, you’re going to need to get on a platform. It’s not as if your ideal partner is going to appear in your living room if you wish hard enough.

No, you have to put yourself in a position where your existence and your viability as a romantic partner are known to the kind of women you want to date.

So if you want to find the love of your life, you need to find some type of platform that puts you in the position that you need to be in order to either find her or be found by her. So sign up for some kind of dating service and maybe the love of your life will find you on it. Your chances are better than if you just do nothing.

2. Know What You Want

Of course, the platform that you use won’t matter much if you don’t actually know what you want or what you’re looking for. There are a lot of platforms for dating out there and using the wrong one can be one of the most discouraging things in the world.

Not knowing what you want can mean possibly facing rejection after rejection after rejection (or it could be the other way around and you’re the one that keeps rejecting women).

So when you are looking at potential dating services, make sure to pick the right one. If you want an Asian female, you should sign up for sites that primarily feature them and so on and so forth.

3. Energy Management

Being with a partner with more energy and not being able to keep up with her is just part of the cons of dating younger women. The thing about young people is that they normally have more energy than older people. Having less energy is just a part of getting older and it is something that is perfectly natural.

While it may not be all that great, it’s also not something that is entirely out of the ordinary. Which means that a man who is dating younger women may find himself gassing out when engaging in such activity. His energy may not allow himself to keep up with his partner and he may find himself just sitting around.

The thing about young people is they have to expend all of their pent up energy. They have so much that it has to be spent in some way, shape, or form. So a younger woman is probably going to want to do activities that may be hard for an older man to keep up with.

But there are a lot of ways to improve energy levels in older people. Eating a well-balanced diet (rich in fruits and vegetables) and exercising regularly (around thirty minutes of moderate intensity for five days a week) can seriously improve energy levels in older people.

Decreased energy is not exactly an ideal situation, but it is something that older men are going to have to deal with — especially with decreased testosterone production. But eating healthy and exercising regularly can help increase those testosterone levels.

4. Understand What You Bring to the Table

There may be a certain amount of insecurity when you date someone who is a lot younger than you are. People may look at you and think that you’re only after her for her looks and that she’s only after you for your money (or for the green card that marrying you might bring).

Then there is also the insecurity that comes with getting older. You may hit a crisis and find yourself comparing yourself to younger men who may be in better shape, have more energy, and better able to keep up with younger women.

You may even be dealt a bigger blow to your self-esteem when these men outpace younger in certain activities and may share more compatible worldviews and values.

That’s not to say that you’re going to be completely left behind. You may be able to offer a bit more stability than other men.

Plus, there’s also good, old-fashioned love that can help carry your relationship through any lulls or down periods.

5. Just have Fun with It

Above all else, you should have fun. Dating is supposed to be fun and relationships are supposed to make you happy. Which is why just having fun with it is important.

If the relationship is fun and it makes both people happy, then an age gap can become something akin to irrelevant.

So when you’re out and about with a woman who is a lot younger than you, be sure to remember to have fun. That’s one way to answer the question of how to attract younger women.

They say age is just a number, but the fact of the matter is that it is not. Age represents so much in terms of life experience and even economic power. In a lot of ways, a relationship with an age gap can have a few problems stemming from said age gap.

But a relationship with a significant age gap can also lead to love, and that’s kind of the point to many men when they are dating younger women.



Chantana Sun

Online Dating Top Writer | Relationship Consultant and Blogger for Asian Love Mates