ONLINE DATING
Is Online Dating for Desperate People?
I remember this one time an old friend took me out for lunch. She was fresh out of a breakup, and I thought she needed me in her time of healing.
I tried to avoid bringing up her ex to the conversation, but that effort was futile — she brought it up herself instead. As it turned out, it was a mutual break up. No hard feelings at all. They just weren’t compatible, and decided to call it quits.
She was upset, but for an entirely different reason. It was hard for her to breakup because she felt there were no other options out there. Her ex felt the same as well. But the longer it went on, the harder it was to ignore the lack of chemistry.
Now that she’s back in the dating scene, it turns out that she asked me out to lunch to seek advice. Not as a matchmaker, but as a friend.
From a professional perspective, I would have recommended that she seek a reliable dating service. Instead, I told her “Why not give online dating a try?”
She immediately shut me down. She was a bit paranoid about leaving any form of digital footprint — even social media. Then again, it was the only other alternative. She was an introvert and it was hard for her to go out there and meet someone new.
She’d look into it — but only if she got really desperate.
I didn’t push it and we ended our lunch on good terms. But that got me thinking: is online dating only a last resort if you’re desperate to find love?
People think that online dating is only for those who are left with no choice. The truth? Online dating provides you with more choices than traditional dating does.
There are specific sites that cater to almost every person’s needs. It’s one of the good things that came out of this digital era — inclusivity.
You meet all kinds of people, both good and bad. You also meet people from all over the world. Of course, you can also find the desperate ones as well. But you can also find genuine, kind, romantic, and like-minded people.
I’ve witnessed firsthand how people find their matches through this modern dating medium. I’ve personally worked with most of them, and they couldn’t be any happier that they gave online dating a try.
Admittedly, there are a few with not-so-great experiences. That doesn’t deter others from claiming their second chance.
It’s occasions like these that often remind me that online dating is not so much different from traditional dating. The real world is already a mess, what makes the online world any different?
Then again, your online dating experience will only depend on how well you choose the people you interact with. The better choices you make, the better chances you’ll find someone you’re compatible with.
Patience is the key here — your fated partner won’t just fall out of the sky and into your arms. You still have a long journey ahead of you. The only difference is you have more access to potential partners.
You’re not desperate for using online dating services. There are simply too many people blinded by their fears to see that it works.
