NEVER DO THIS When Dating Asian Women
Be mindful of the things you shouldn’t do when dating Asian women for love. Here are some basic tips to take note of.
While the points above guide you towards what’s best to do when dating Asian women, there are also things that you will have to avoid doing.
Some can be compromised, but others are real deal breakers. You sure wouldn’t want to ruin your first date with your special lady, right?
It’s true that Asian ladies tend to find foreign men attractive to the point that some of them even prefer foreign guys alone, but you shouldn’t take that as a guarantee that you can easily win their hearts.
On the first date, be that someone who’s far from being offensive — culturally and personally. Knowing how to meet Asian women offline or online is easy, but either way, you will want to avoid making a bad impression on your first meeting.
As such, here are the don’ts when dating Asian singles:
Don’t fetishize her.
It’s nowhere near a compliment when someone is fetishized because of their race. Asian girls have had enough of that, having to weed out foreign guys who have this famous “yellow fever”. The last thing they would want is to date a man who keeps talking about how Asian they are.
Sometimes, you may not be aware that you have this so-called Asian fever. Aside from what was mentioned earlier, you will recognize the Asian fetish in you when you keep on referencing her to her race, endear her with food names because of how she looks, point out that she does certain stereotypes as what you expected, or use slang words in her language without even thinking about understanding what it means. These are all considered offensive. It might also be a subtle way of showing that your previous lovers have striking similarities with your new one.
Don’t interrupt her when she’s talking.
This applies to any other women you’re dating, but for a typical Asian woman, she may just wait for you to stop talking before she can open her mouth. Her silence may mean she is listening and waiting for her turn to speak. So when it’s her turn to speak, be a gentleman and listen attentively.
Don’t be a know-it-all.
If you want to impress a woman, especially if she comes from a foreign country, the last thing you should do is brag about what you learned about her country. It’s the same way as dating Asian women. It’s a given that she knows more about Asian culture, Asian traditions, and many other facts about their continent and the country she is living in. While it’s okay to talk about her culture, first dates aren’t the right time for that, especially if you sound like you know better than she does. If you feel compelled to talk negatively about certain Asian issues, such as social differences and other peculiarities, it’s best to just keep your mouth shut.
Don’t speak her language as if you’re a pro.
Unless you really are a pro of her language, there’s no reason you’re prohibited to use it. But if you only know several words and phrases, don’t even try to sound like you’re fluent. You may show how much you’re interested about her culture by learning several beginner vocabularies, but not sounding arrogant like you know most about her language. This also applies to when you’re just yet chatting or calling each other on dating sites. The only thing that you need to be good at is learning how to pronounce Asian women names, especially hers.
Don’t say no to the food she prepared, ordered, or recommended to you.
That’s just the way it is for interracial relationships. Your foreign date’s cuisines may be very peculiar to your eyes, but you should acknowledge the food she brought or recommended. This is true when you are having your first date in a restaurant. Show her how much of an adventurer you are to give in to what she suggests or orders.
Don’t hesitate sharing your food with her as well. Asian girls find it a typical thing to taste their partner’s meals. She’ll love sharing her food with you as well.
Don’t rush things.
Asian females aren’t that easy. This is one difference they may have from Western girls. While everyone’s different and you can’t put your date under the conservative stereotype, there’s a big chance you will meet one who’s more or less reserved. The best thing you can do is to give her some time and respect her want of space.
Stay away from public displays of affection.
While your Asian date may have her romantic fantasies, it doesn’t include displaying too much physical affection in public. Typical first dates with these ladies may be about sitting next to each other without holding hands. For goodbyes, you may give a little peck on the cheek. Again, you shouldn’t rush things with these women as society has ingrained the virtue of being conservative in most of them.
Don’t be afraid to meet her family.
The first few dates don’t have to include meeting her family, relatives, or friends, but when she proposes or insists that you meet them, do it. Your Asian date will want to know if you can be trusted. She will want to hear what the important people in her life have to say about you, as well as observe how you interact with them. Families are very important in Asia, so if she’s down to have a serious relationship with you, you’ll have to face the people she loves.
Keep in mind these do’s and don’ts when dating Asian women.
