INTERRACIAL DATING

The Dating Dynamic between Westerners and Foreign Women

Chantana Sun
5 min readJun 5, 2023

In the Western world, it’s quite common to see people of different nationalities conglomerate, depending on what part of the state or city you’re living in. It’s also common to see these people interdating.

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Most modern or progressive cities tend to have a wider diversity of residents. In a certain area, you’ll find a Latin community, an Asian community, and an African American community.

These tight-knit groups (even in first-world nations) tend to have members that want to explore other dating options outside of their immediate vicinity, preferably people who do not belong to the same race as them.

For example, we could say those predominantly white or predominantly Latino communities want to date outside their circle for a change. And that’s perfectly understandable.

It’s natural for us to be drawn to people who are different from us. Anything different from what we’re used to is interesting. This form of curiosity is one of the reasons why Western men tend to have a penchant for dating foreign women.

Because of their appeal, most of these men go on international excursions to meet, date and eventually marry a foreign woman. Consequently, this drives the influx of tourists in a lot of countries.

We’re not saying that every tourist in another country is out there looking for love, but we can’t deny the fact that there are lots of men traveling to foreign places each year in search of the love of their lives.

There’s something undeniably unique about dating a woman from another culture — someone who’s unaccustomed to your way of life as you’re learning hers.

This dynamic is also one of the driving factors that influence people to seek interracial relationships on dating sites. Western infatuation with exoticism and the pursuit of a love interest is what brings many men to the front door of international matchmaking agencies and online dating sites.

But the relationship between Western men and foreign women goes much deeper than this.

There are a lot of cultural, historical, behavioral, and societal aspects of their interactions in the past that have formed a recurring theme of closeness between many Westerners and foreign women from Eastern Europe, Latin America, and Southeast Asia.

On top of this, there are countless personality quirks that each of the two groups have that complement each other.

Let’s try to go over a few of them.

We’ll start with the fact that…

Behavior-wise, foreign women fulfill Western men’s needs (and vice-versa).

Western men have a lot to gain from dating foreign women.

They get to immerse themselves in a new culture, introduce themselves to a new language, and learn about how certain cultural traditions and practices work.

Aside from that, most foreign women (especially those of Asian background) check a lot of these men’s criteria for their perfect woman — a submissive and passive partner that allows them to lead in the relationship.

Likewise, some Asian women tend to enjoy being led by a dominant partner who knows how to arrange plans and make firm decisions for them.

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Though Asian girls tend to go for a more direct, confident, and no-nonsense type of guy, not all Asian women are the same. Each woman’s preferences can vary. The same goes for men.

Some men prefer docile and timid women from Asia, while some prefer strong and assertive women whom you can find in Latin and European countries.

The bottom line is, we’re all different and we have our own set of preferences. Because of this, some men are unable to find their ideal type within their locality. That’s why they venture outside their country to meet foreign women who can fulfill their needs in a partner.

Aside from this…

Many foreign women enjoy certain benefits from dating Western men.

At times, foreign women also have their penchant for dating Western men, and for many good reasons too. Some of these reasons are unique to their culture, socio-economic standing, or individual wants and needs.

For example, a lot of European women from post-Soviet nations seek western husbands due to their countries’ severe gender imbalance which results in a higher percentage of women over men.

The population imbalance is one possible reason why some European girls prefer dating Western men. Another reason has more to do with financial status.

This is something that some Latin, European, and Asian women tend to have in common. For varying reasons, the cost of living and the quality of life in certain parts of these women’s home countries are highly difficult to cope with, and marrying a Western man can sometimes be a blessing for these women and their families.

Poverty is a widespread issue that is prevalent in many countries. While it’s wrong to imply that all foreign women are gold diggers who prey on rich Western men, we can’t deny that it’s also happening.

There are women like that out there, women with a desire to escape the hellish living conditions of their poverty-stricken nations. Many of them have genuine desires to meet and marry a Western man out of a culturally ingrained stigma that paints the Western man as kind, benevolent, and sovereign.

Sometimes, these women grow up idolizing, patronizing, and looking up to Western men as a standard of beauty and monetary wealth, and this translates to a modern, collective attraction among certain foreign women towards the concept of dating Westerners.

And lastly…

There are so many online services that revolve around pairing the two together.

Every year, thousands of interracial relationships are made possible through services such as online matchmaking sites and dating applications.

These are services aimed at targeting Western men and foreign women from countries all over the world, facilitating a wide array of ways for the two to interact online, potentially meet in person, and get married.

This online dating culture further strengthens the general dating dynamic observed between Westerners and foreign ladies.

You might be asking yourself: “Are there any legit international dating sites?”

They’re definitely out there. All it takes is a quick browser search and you’ll find a whole lot of legitimate options with genuine, verified women.

In conclusion, there are so many different reasons why foreign women and Western guys get along so well.

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These are just a handful of them. There’s a wide array of cultural aspects that draw the two together, and one thing’s for sure — foreign women and Westerners will continue to get along, even more so with the help of services like the ones we just mentioned.

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Chantana Sun
Chantana Sun

Written by Chantana Sun

Online Dating Top Writer | Relationship Consultant and Blogger for Asian Love Mates https://www.asianlovemates.com/

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