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Attracting Foreign Women In Subtle Ways
Well, look at that. You’re dating. You’ve put yourself out there and you’ve made yourself vulnerable but you’ve also opened yourself up to the possibility of finding love. The only problem is that now that you’ve put yourself out there, you’ve found a person, or people, that you’re attracted to. But you’re not sure if they’re attracted to you, nor you may be aware of how to inspire attraction in them if not.
You could be in this exact scenario. You see someone that you like, someone to whom you’re attracted, but they’re not attracted to you.
Your feelings, unfortunately, are unrequited. Or the potential for them to be requited is right there, but they’re still on the fence about whether or not they’re into you. And you don’t know how to tilt them to the side of the fence that leads to them dating you.
There’s no real formula behind attraction. Some factors are pretty consistent: a face that’s not ugly, a lack of pungent body odor, and maybe an attitude that’s not overbearing. But there are a lot of subtler factors to attraction as well and a lot of little ways to inspire someone to be attracted to you.
Focus on the lips
When you’re trying to get someone to be attracted to you, focus on the lips, yours and theirs. Glance at their lips, but don’t stare. Staring is one of those things that walks a fine line between being intimate and creepy. Just glance at their lips because that’s going to signal to them that you’d like to kiss them.
But don’t just focus on their lips. Try to draw some attention to your own lips as well. Because drawing attention to your lips will make them aware of their presence. Which can make them consider that you are someone whom they could kiss.
So the thought of an interaction with you that’s decidedly romantic has been planted in their mind. But keep in mind that you should probably make sure that your lips aren’t chapped so make sure to stay hydrated and also carry lip balm if you need it.
Stand up straight
Studies show that women are attracted to tall men. Which means that guys who are six feet tall or more are going to have a comparatively easy time attracting women. They’re not going to have an easy time by any means. But they are going to have an easier time.
If you happen to be one of those vertically gifted men, then congratulations and you better make sure to stand up straight so as to maximize its potential to attract women. Height conveys power, power conveys success and success makes you a more desirable candidate with whom to build a life because a successful man probably has things like a home and a steady income, both of which are going to be kind of essential to things like a family.
If you’re not one the vertically gifted, if your height skews more to the American average of five-foot-nine, then you’re going to have to stand up straight because that gives off the illusion of looking taller than you actually are.
If you really want to give off the illusion of height, you can slip lifts into your shoes so you look taller when you wear them. Be warned that some lifts can be uncomfortable over long periods of time so make sure that you’re willing to bear that discomfort in the name of being more attractive without being overt about it.
Wear a really good cologne, but not too much of it
A great and subtle way to be attractive is to smell nice. In order to smell nice, a lot of guys wear cologne. But cologne can be troublesome because some guys can go overboard and overdo it, emptying half the bottle in one go when one or two spritzes would have been more than enough. After all, scent is something that should be discovered, not announced.
So if you do decide to put on some cologne, don’t use too much of it.
Also, smell is the scent that’s most closely linked to memory so make of that what you will.
Play a little hard to get
There are a lot of women out there who want a guy to chase them a little bit and there are women out there who want to do the chasing. If you’re going after the latter type of woman, then you’re going to have to give them something to chase.
If you approach a girl, don’t approach too strongly. That kind of approach can be a bit overwhelming and turn off quite a lot of women. Instead, come in with a compliment. Maybe her hair looks nice. But don’t fall at her feet and worship her like she’s Aphrodite or some other mythological figure known for being beautiful.
Coming on too strong reeks of desperation and desperation is not attractive to a lot of women. So remember to play it cool. Cool guys almost always end up with some level of romantic success.
Don’t overthink it
Do you know what the centipede’s dilemma is? Well, think about a centipede. It’s got a hundred legs, right? Well, think about how it walks. It just does it. Its brain probably doesn’t have the brain power necessary to think about what it’s doing. It just does it.
But if it did start to think about it, it might not be able to walk. It might start to think about how impossible it should be to move around a hundred pairs of legs. So what was once automatic becomes impossible to do.
Humans can do this when they’re breathing. Think about how you’re breathing. Chances are that it’s getting noticeably more difficult to breathe the more you think about it.
But breathing isn’t the only way that paralysis by analysis can affect humans. It can also work when it comes to dating. You spend so much time thinking about ways to attract and approach potential partners that you don’t end up approaching or attracting anyone. So maybe tell your brain to shut up and let your instincts take over. Instinct is how humans breathe and centipedes walk.
There are a lot of subtle ways you can attract someone. Some of them will work on some women. Others will fall flat with those very same women but work with others. But the most important thing to remember is that you’ve actually got to go out and try.
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